Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibility is a great guideline for understanding children's and parents' responsibilities related to food. From infancy through adolescence, parents decide what, where and when to eat, and children decide whether and how much. Remember this: "Fundamental to parents’ jobs is trusting children to determine how much and whether to eat from what parents provide. When parents do their jobs with feeding, children do their jobs with eating."
According to the Ellyn Satter Institute, "Children have natural ability with eating. They eat as much as they need, they grow in the way that is right for them, and they learn to eat the food their parents eat. Step-by-step, throughout their growing-up years, they build on their natural ability and become eating-competent. Parents let them learn and grow with eating when they follow the Division of Responsibility in Feeding."
The Division of Responsibility for infants:
- The parent is responsible for what.
- The child is responsible for how much (and everything else).
Parents choose breast- or formula-feeding, and help the infant be calm and organized. Then they feed smoothly, paying attention to information coming from the baby about timing, tempo, frequency, and amounts.
The Division of Responsibility for babies making the transition to family food:
- The parent is still responsible for what and is becoming responsible for when and where the child is fed.
- The child is still and always responsible for how much and whether to eat the foods offered by the parent.
The Division of Responsibility for toddlers through adolescents
- The parent is responsible for what, when and where.
- The child is responsible for how much and whether.
Parents’ feeding jobs:
- Choose and prepare the food.
- Provide regular meals and snacks.
- Make eating times pleasant.
- Step-by-step, show children by example how to behave at family mealtime.
- Be considerate of children’s lack of food experience without catering to likes and dislikes.
- Not let children have food or beverages (except for water) between meal and snack times.
- Let children grow up to get bodies that are right for them.
Children’s eating jobs:
- Children will eat.
- They will eat the amount they need.
- They will learn to eat the food their parents eat.
- They will grow predictably.
- They will learn to behave well at mealtime.